It frequently astonishes me when either party in a marriage treats the other like a child (and I'm not talking about cute banter, I'm talking about the kind of controlling abuse you experienced here).

Also, why the hell didn't he have the balls to simply talk plainly with you, expressing how he felt like a grown-up, if he was so put out by your supposed lack of communication? No one should tolerate passive aggressive bullshit of this kind.