now s…ts rather than move on, “Pa’s got things for you to do, and mother wants you, I know she does”. But the moment where this is most achingly apparent is one without Shane; he has just left the room and Marian goes to her husband, asking “Joe, hold me. Don’t say anything, just hold me — tight.” She knows that she is in danger of wanting to be with Shane more than she wants to be with her husband, and she needs him to tip the balance back.