The entire teaching is deranged. I'm so sorry you suffered under this lunacy for so long.

The attitude my wife and I always had (regardless of the evangelical brainwashed we were often around) was that we would make the choices for what worked for us, for our marriage, for our family, and we would not apply some idiotic one-size-fits-all sexist evangelical template.

As it turned out, my wife was at home with the children for a while because it was what she wanted, and not for any other reason. Luckily I had a job that allowed for that (with a certain amount of belt-tightening and watching the pennies).

Now, my wife has a job which she is brilliant at, and she's very happy. She is the primary breadwinner. I'm at home writing freelance. I take care of more of the domestic jobs, because I have more flexibility and time, and we also divide up cooking, etc. I'm pretty good at being "house husband" (though I say so myself). Does that mean my wife chose wrong when she married me? By Piper's idiotic rhetoric it did, but we've been happily married for 21 years, and are very content.

Sorry to sound smug, but that guy is an idiot, and I just wanted to point to my own personal experience to prove that these matters are for couples do decide and agree on, and the church has no business whatsoever telling husbands or wives to accept rigid and sexist roles.